A study that was performed on elderly individuals a few years back, has shown that during old age, there are many people who regret the things they didn’t have the courage to do as opposed to only a few who had regrets about the things they’ve done.
By taking this study into consideration, let’s assume that tomorrow is the last day of your life. Would you have any regrets regarding the things you did or did not do?
What I want to point out through this mental exercise is that you should review your life in advance before it’s too late and start having regrets, and if you are not exactly sure how to do that, then here is a list that could help you turn things around so you will live a life free of regrets. I would also love to know which of these 13 things you found the most challenging.
1. GET YOUR LIFE ON PURPOSE
Firstly you will need to understand how important it is for you to get your life on purpose. If you keep putting all your meaningful plans off and you if you continue doing things just for the sake of doing them, chances are that you will look back at your life with regrets. Stop chasing the wrong things and get your life in order, get your life on purpose. “When I chased after money, I never had enough. When I got my life on purpose and focused on giving of myself and everything that arrived into my life, then I was prosperous.” Wayne Dyer
2. STOP WASTING TIME
It’s funny how for many of us tomorrow looks better than today for getting things done. We put off those things that are so important for us and we lie to ourselves by saying we will do them later, we will do them tomorrow or the day after tomorrow. Stop fooling around, it is your life you’re playing with, your future and the future of those close to you.
“Take the first step in faith. You don’t have to see the whole staircase, just take the first step.” Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.
3. STOP PLAYING THE VICTIM CARD
Know that the more time you spend complaining the more time it will take you to find a solution and get out of the mud. The brain is hardwired to look for trouble in order to protect you from a great danger, but keep in mind that we are not cavemen anymore.
“You don’t make progress by standing on the sidelines, whimpering and complaining. You make progress by implementing ideas.” Shirley Hufstedler
4. TAKE ADVANTAGE – EACH DAY OFFERS A NEW BEGINNING
It doesn’t really matter where you’ve been, it doesn’t really matter how many mistakes you’ve made and it doesn’t really matter how many times you’ve been rejected and ridiculed in the past because you see, today is a brand new day and you have another chance, a new opportunity to start all new.
“Don’t let a bad day make you feel like you had a bad life.”
. STOP MAKING UP EXCUSES
“You already have every characteristic necessary for success if you recognize, claim, develop and use them.” - Zig Ziglar
There are so many people out there who managed to go past their disabilities and inspire lives, and we can take Hellen Keller as an example. You and I know that there are plenty of people who have no disabilities whatsoever and still they find all kind of excuses not to move forward with their lives, not knowing this will only bring more pain upon them along the way. Don’t let that be you. Look within and know there is something you can do better than anyone else. Find what that something is and share it with the whole world for that’s where you will find happiness.
6. STOP COMPARING YOURSELF TO OTHERS
No matter what you do, no matter who you are and where you are, always remember you have your own unique path to walk on. Don’t compare yourself, your work and your journey to anyone else for that would only distract you from your own path, your own journey of self-discovery and self-mastery.
“True nobility isn’t about being better than anyone else; it’s about being better than you used to be.” Wayne Dyer
7. STOP SABOTAGING YOURSELF
Yes, we sabotage ourselves all the time, whether we realize it or not. We say we want something and the moment we feel it’s coming our way because we get scared, we start sabotaging ourselves in one way or another and this usually happens at the subconscious level.
8. STOP THE WHAT IF
“Remembering that you are going to die is the best way I know to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose. You are already naked. There is no reason not to follow your heart.” - Steve Jobs
What if they laugh at me, what if I fail, what if I’ll look stupid, what if, what if… Well, you will never know until you try but chances are nothing terrifying will happen to you and if you ask me, there is nothing more terrifying than wasting your life, there is nothing more frightening than getting to the end of your life and realizing you wasted your life, the only life that was offered to you.
9. STEP OUT OF YOUR COMFORT ZONE
Get out of your comfort zone, have the courage to step into the unknown for that is how you’ll allow your mind to expand, to grow and to create new things. Don’t be afraid to try new things, don’t be afraid to make mistakes and most important, don’t be afraid to learn from these mistakes.
“Move out of your comfort zone. You can only grow if you are willing to feel awkward and uncomfortable when you try something new.” Brian Tracy
10. DON’T BE AFRAID TO ASK QUESTIONS
In order to learn and grow you will have to ask questions, a lot of questions. Nobody was born having the answer to everything. It’s okay not to know, so don’t be afraid to ask questions.
“He who asks is a fool for five minutes, but he who does not ask remains a fool forever.” Chinese Proverb
11. EMPLOY YOUR TIME IN IMPROVING YOURSELF BY OTHER MEN’S WRITINGS
With the Internet and the many resources we have at hand nowadays is quite easy to learn everything we want to learn and even more. You can’t really use your excuses anymore. Take advantage of all that is being offered to you and promise yourself to
“Employ your time in improving yourself by other men’s writings so that you shall come easily by what others have labored hard for.” Socrates
12. FIND A MENTOR
Find somebody who will help you become the person you aspire to be whether this person is alive or not, whether it’s somebody you know personally or not as this would have a huge impact in your life and your journey. I chose Wayne Dyer as my mentor and I only spoke to him once but that hasn’t stopped me from being inspired and motivated by him and all of his teaching and to master many of the skills he has.
13. DON’T GIVE UP ON YOURSELF
No matter how hard life may seem and no matter what happens to you, don’t give up on yourself and don’t give up on your dreams. Have faith in yourself and know that, just like Dale Carnegie said it: “Most of the important things in the world have been accomplished by people who have kept on trying when there seemed to be no hope at all.”