“There are two basic motivating forces: fear and love. When we are afraid, we pull back from life. When we are in love, we open to all that life has to offer with passion, excitement, and acceptance. We need to learn to love ourselves first, in all our glory and our imperfections. If we cannot love ourselves, we cannot fully open our ability to love others or our potential to create. Evolution and all hopes for a better world rest in the fearlessness and open-hearted vision of people who embrace life. ~ John Lennon
Just like Franklin D. Roosevelt said it, The only thing we should fear in life is in fear itself because fear prevents us from living a full life. Fear can paralyze you in your tracks and prevent you from living out your dreams. We as humans can fear many things and not even realize it. We fear failure, love, loneliness, change, and the unknown. These fears can be unhealthy depending on how you respond to them. Stress is just another word for fear and we as humans allow stress to rule our lives today and this is very unhealthy because too much stress and fear can make us physically ill.
1. EVALUATE YOUR FEARS
The first step in eliminating unnecessary fear is to evaluate your fears. Ask yourself what you are afraid of and why? Once you analyze your fears it is much easier to keep them in check and keep them from holding you back in life. This way you decide what fears are necessary and which ones are unreasonable and acting only an obstacle in our lives.
Love is the great miracle cure, loving ourselves works miracles in our lives
. ~ Louise Hay
2. LOVE FOR YOUR OWN PERSON
We must love ourselves first before we can love anyone else. I feel that loving ourselves is very important because loving yourself leads to positive self-esteem and self-confidence which assists us in overcoming our fears and will give us the courage to step outside of our comfort zone. By fully loving yourself you can obtain the courage necessary to face your fears head on and overcome them.
3. LEARN TO EMBRACE AND LOVE LIFE
Next, learn to embrace and love life. If you love your life you are much more willing to take the chances necessary to live the life of your dreams. Remember that loving life opens doors for us.
Don’t shrink your dreams. Super-size your courage and abilities. ~ Karen Salmansohn
You must believe in yourself and make it happen. You have to keep trying new things and stepping outside of your comfort zone a little bit every day in order to work on your courage and self-confidence. Remember that practice does make perfect. You can achieve anything in life if you just believe it!
4. TRUST YOURSELF
Another important step is learning to trust yourself. You must be able to trust yourself before you can trust the flow of life or others. If you do not trust then you will continue to allow fear to rule your life. Trusting yourself will empower you and bring about the positive things that you want in your life.
5. LET GO OF THE PAST
The next important step is to let go of the past and not allow it to define you. Just because you failed in the past at something it does not mean that you will fail every time. Remember that every failure is one step closer to success. Forget about yesterday and focus on today. Every seed you plant today counts toward your future harvest!
If you’re not failing, you’re not trying. ~ Jillian Michaels
6. STOP WORRYING AND START LIVING
We need to quit worry about perfection and accept that we are human and we learn through trial and error. Just like when we were learning to walk it was not about how many times we fell but it was about how many times we got back up and tried again. As adults we have come to worry more about the bumps and bruises than our journey. We need to let go and not obsess about every little imperfection. I have learned to strive to focus on just doing my very best and learning from my mistakes. All that matters in life is that you give it your very best and live life to the fullest. The only fear should be fear itself. It is better to live with mistakes than to live a life filled with regret.
Life isn’t about waiting for the storm to pass; it is about learning to dance in the rain. ~ Author Unknown